Let it be hard.
Sometimes we make decisions that are hard because we love ourselves and want more for ourselves. A healthier body, better relationships, finding our purpose, a job that will challenge us, being more present in our lives.
So we take the leap and make a decision.
We feel motivated and inspired at first, when our thoughts about what we’re doing make it easy to start out. But then it starts getting hard.
Most of the time, people don’t stick to what they say they want because it starts to get hard.
When it starts to get hard, we feel uncomfortable. Our brains want to go back to what was easy, comfortable, and familiar. Even if that ease, comfort, and familiarity wasn’t in our best interests and is why we made the decision to create changes in our life in the first place.
When it gets hard, we may think:
“A second helping just for tonight isn’t that bad” or
“I can skip running today since I did it yesterday” or
“Another drink won’t really hurt” or
“I miss him so much, I’ll just text him to see how he’s doing.”
These urges come up because we want to go back to what is easy, comfortable, and familiar. If we keep answering these urges by returning to what’s easy, comfortable, and familiar, we won’t get to the place where we pass through the “hard” part.
We can allow the urges–and any other feelings that come up–to be there without resisting or reacting to them. We can process them through instead.
So let it be hard. And keep doing it anyway.
Keep sticking to the plan. Keep remembering why this is important. It was a decision to want more for ourselves because we love ourselves. To align with who we want to be and are becoming.
Here are some thoughts we can think during the hard parts:
“Doing this is hard and doing this is important to me.”
“This is the part where I want to have a second helping, but I’m sticking to my plan.”
“Running every day is hard and I can let it be hard for now.”
“Not having another drink is supposed to be uncomfortable for me.”
“Missing him is hard and I don’t need to text or call him. I’m making space for something new.”
When we can let it be hard, we will pass through to the other side of it. Then it will just become a regular part of what we do in our lives, a part of who we are.
We become a person who doesn’t need a second helping or another drink. We become a person who works out every day. We become a person who takes care of themselves no matter what. We become a person who makes space to receive and have something or someone aligned with us. We become a person who shows up in the world the way we want to.
Your turn: Are you ready to stop quitting on yourself? Are you willing to let it be hard? What would happen if you let it be hard and got to the place where it’s just part of what you do and who you are? How would your life be better or different then?
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