I recently made a painful and difficult decision in my life because I chose to love myself enough and to want more for myself.
It can be easy to think that when we love ourselves, making a decision out of love is also easy.
I want to offer that making decisions out of love for ourselves can sometimes be extremely difficult and painful. But we’re willing to make the decision because we know the current situation we’re in is not serving us or moving us forward in an aligned way.
We might be stuck and suffering, and even though we are, it can still feel scary to make a decision to change. But we are not being loving to ourselves by choosing to stay stuck or in suffering.
We have to love ourselves enough to become aware of the cost of the situation we’re in. What is the cost to our well-being? What other options are we not considering? How much time and energy is this situation extracting from us? What else could we be creating in our lives with this time and energy if we redirected it?
And how do we get to that place of love for ourselves where we feel strong enough to make a difficult decision?
In small ways each day, we can become familiar with what it feels like to love ourselves even more.
When we practice in small ways each day to care for ourselves, support ourselves, and be kind to ourselves, our lives can change.
“When you’re at peace with yourself and love yourself, it is virtually impossible to do things to yourself that are destructive.” ― Wayne Dyer
When we love ourselves more we:
- Make different and more affirming decisions in our life
- Take better care of ourselves
- Set healthy boundaries
- Believe in what’s possible for us
- Move from past-based beliefs into future-based beliefs
- Know that we’re worth it and worthy
- Commit to ourselves and what we say we’ll do
- Advocate for ourselves
- Trust ourselves more
- Are more patient with ourselves and our results/outcomes/goals
- Move into alignment with our decisions/choices
“Self-love does not come from writing a book, or from making a million dollars, or from buying a new house. Self-esteem comes from the little loving choices we make every day—the choices we make that tell us, ‘You are important. You are a good person. You deserve to take care of yourself. You matter.’” – Debbie Ford, The Right Questions
Your turn: In what small, daily ways do you want to practice caring for yourself? In what small, daily ways do you want to practice supporting yourself? In what small, daily ways do you want to practice being kind to yourself? What does it feel like to become familiar with loving yourself even more?
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