It’s about feelings.
Everything we do is because we want to feel a certain way. Every goal we chase, every decision we make—it’s all about the feeling we think we’ll get (or avoid).
Remember: Our feelings don’t come from our circumstances. They come from our thoughts about those circumstances.
And since our feelings drive our actions—and our actions create our results—our thoughts are shaping everything in our lives.
Do you want different results? Then you need to think different thoughts.
For example:
🚫 You decline a big opportunity, not because you can’t do it, but because you fear failure and want to avoid feeling dejected. The current thought might be, “I’m not sure I’m up to the task.” A different thought that creates a new feeling could be, “I’m willing to see what I’m made of.”
🤐 You don’t share your opinion in a meeting, not because it’s not valuable, but because you feel nervous, thinking, I don’t want to look stupid. A different thought could be, “It’s important for them to hear various perspectives.” And that creates a different feeling, like determination.
💔 You disconnect from your partner, not because you want distance, but because you feel hurt, thinking, They should want to spend more time with me. A different thought could be, “I want them to know how I really feel about this, even if it’s hard.”
See the pattern? Our thoughts fuel our feelings, our feelings drive our actions, and our actions create our results—sometimes, if we’re not careful, our thoughts can create the exact opposite of what we truly want.
So if you don’t like your results, start with your thoughts.
Your turn: What feelings are fueling your actions? What actions are those feelings driving? And are they creating the results you actually want?
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