That’s OK.
How many of us have said to others or have had it said to us, “You got this!”? Or how many times have we said to ourselves, “I got this!”?
Sometimes that phrase can be an energizing, motivating way to support someone else or ourselves. Sometimes we need to hear it to get a nudge of confidence or determination to do something hard.
And sometimes, the most supportive thing we can tell ourselves is the truth, “I DON’T got this.”
It might be a hard truth to hear for some of us who are used to figuring it out no matter what or pushing through it all the time.
But try it out. Let it sink in. “I don’t got this.”
How does it feel to say that? Maybe to admit that?
Maybe it doesn’t feel realistic because it’s not really true right now. Maybe it doesn’t feel supportive. Maybe it feels icky. Why?
Or maybe it feels like relief. Maybe it feels like a revelation. Maybe it feels responsible.
When we can allow ourselves to think or say, “I don’t got this,” we are allowing ourselves to tell the truth in some aspect of our lives that might feel daunting or overwhelming. Sometimes our lives can feel that way because we are human beings living in a world that we mostly can’t control.
If we can admit to ourselves, “I don’t got this,” a helpful next thing to ask is, “What do I need?”
Our brains like to find answers, so asking “What do I need?” gives our brain a job to do. The answer might be:
- “Let it be for now” or
- “I think I need to talk to someone” or
- “I think I need to ask John for help” or
- “I think I need to ask Susie for help too” or
- “I think I need to slow down” or
- “I think I need to cry it out”
Or whatever the answer might be, listen and allow.
It doesn’t mean we give up and we’ll never “got this” again. It means right now, we need some extra support – either from ourselves or from others who we trust to help or support us in a way that works for all involved.
Your turn: Where in your life do you “don’t got” this right now? Are you willing to admit that to yourself and have it be OK for now? Are you open to seeing what you need to move forward? How would you like to support yourself in this?
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